Jonas’ young lover back at home came to Jonas’ school for her post ume exams- it was an exciting moment for Jonas as he introduces her to all who wondered why he is graduating without the 2nd certificate-a fiancee!
After her exams, they both took a walk and Jonas told her of his plan to serve, get a job and get married at 28. He finally asked her to be his fiancee as they both walk towards getting married. She was overjoyed as she told him-” I thought you would never ask”. They agreed to no sex till marriage, they hugged and held hands as they walked back- their dream is coming through.
So Jonas began planning on how best he could take care of his dream wife to be…but it was short lived!
While he was away, waiting to serve his fatherland, his damsel got involved with another guy who was just done with national youth service. Initially, they were friends but it got “touchy”. Jonas’ mum and friend noticed the new guy who comes around and told Jonas …He was so sad and sick because he doesn’t want to loose his childhood love-so he confronted her but painfully, she didn’t deny. She even told him of how this new guy touches and treats her in a way she likes than the littles gifts and poems Jonas showers her with! She opted out for the guy. Jonas was heartbroken, so weak from the heartbreak, he couldn’t even fight to keep her. He had to let her go painfully. Away, she went to explore the world with her new boyfriend. His name was Akpan!
Jonas was so heartbroken, his believe system distorted! He has come to love her so dearly, he couldn’t believe she is gone. He lost his value for relationship without sex because she pointed out that she gave her virginity to the new guy! Jonas was mad-so mad that he planned to get down with as many girls as possible on NYSC camp.
He got enlisted, still wounded, with mix feelings he left for camp with a broken leg from a car accident he had a week to camp-Seems God wanted to slow him down.
On camp he met a tall lanky lady called Olori…they met at the camp clinic and became friends quickly. She was all over him. He friends pointed that she is in love with him but Jason waved it off. Olori was homely, always looking out for Jason- they had good time gisting and laughing. Jason earlier decision to deal ruthlessly with girls couldn’t hold water as his values still had a hold on him.
He invited Olori to fellowship severally but she always gave excuses except for Sundays. He couldn’t tell why she is not a lover of fellowships… It was a sign but he couldn’t see it because he was already in the magnetic field of sin.
After the three weeks camp, they were assigned to different places of primary assignment. Before long they had located themselves and their friendship blossomed.
On a fateful Saturday, Jonas visited Olori at her ensuite apartment, she cooked and they both enjoyed the delicacy together, a little chat,smiles and laughter here and there ; it started raining cat and dog outside, the room became cozy, Olori wanted Jonas to keep her warm,he was so naive as he has never been in this position before, he held her, she held him more tightly, she moved her body seductively, she moved to kiss him, he tried to move away, she insisted…
…the atmosphere was unusual! It seems the long detonated time bomb in Jonas is counting down to explosion again. And it is counting down very fast. She was all over him kissing and caressing him. Jonas was now on fire- how is he going to explain to her that he is still a virgin- while he was thinking of what to do, she was already naked, Jonas began to shiver…his will power to stay a virgin is gone, he felt trapped… she was now helping him to pull his shirt…she seems to be good at it…
…Jonas is now intensely on fire, he has lost every sense of reasoning, he began to kiss and caress her too. Was he good at it, is he man enough, isn’t God watching him?! What happen to his vow to remain a virgin till marriage?! Everything was happening too fast, his fingers is directed downwards and…
So I was away to work for almost two weeks on two different occasions in a certain village on the eastern part of Kogi state,somewhere in the middle belt part of Nigeria. For the first time in more than three decades, I am spending quality time with my folks from my country home- the experience was thrilling.
More thrilling was the little village which was a close to the road from the express road, a hub for farmers and hunters, surrounded by three rivers,beautiful flora, sweet melodies of surrounding music from the beautiful birds I am yet to behold, fruit trees of all kinds everywhere to behold and to Munch- free of charge! Hmmm! Tasty moments to thrill the tongue!
Talking of the tongue, we were thrilled to different local cuisines and drinks(non alcoholic please).
I was amazed by the availability of so much to eat- food items we sweat to buy in the city- some laying wasted here.
Non among the villagers looked feable-i guess because they fed well. They drank waters from their rivers,yet they don’t fall sick- what a faithful God!
The little children trekking long distance of more than 1km every day to go to school, with smiles on their faces, songs on their lips, sweat on their faces, I was surprised by their neatness even on their dusty road and how well they greeted us each time they pass by our site- so lovely!
O! Their beautiful covenant names- Great, Divine,Victor,victory, Peter, Samuel etc- you will wonder if this is a village…95% are Christians with an Orthodox church and a Pentecostal church in the small village.
Noticed everyone in the village is related and they can’t marry them selves. So the men go to neighboring villages to look for wives and bring them home( no romance for the youths -you need to go far to find love).
Yes the youths! Most are friendly, relate with their elders pretty well, most are hardworking but I noticed a few who will just wake up each day,baff up and go socializing in neighboring villages- even when we had jobs for them to do for daily pay, they turned it down saying d pay was too small- oh generation of get rich quick- who has bewitched you!
We noticed a young unmarried lady in her early 30’s- an unusual sight in a village where girls get pregnant and get marry as early as 16 or 18. She seems like a busy body,going from house to house, will dress up to the neighboring villages- I guess to increase her chances- unfortunately for her we were all married in my team. We Wondered daily why she lingered this long as a single lady- she is already getting out of shape- are a guy and interested in marrying her type- please, let’s help her ministry.
There was a mentally retarded young boy who daily walks past our site more than two to three times a day singing praises to God- o! How I miss his songs,songs of old in different dialect in his own tongue… and when I listen to him sing, I picture the chains mentally holding him back falling someday!
Talking about chains?! I met a young whom was called pastor by all,I got interested in him and discussed with him the need to work on the youths on sex education and mind development, he was ready to support that move…this guy later introduced a girl to us as his fiance,we were all happy for him about his proposed marriage and his love for God but our happiness didn’t last long as….
Jonas is no longer a teenager,he is a youth now.
His dexterity to remain a lover of God and to stay pure from sexual immorality is more resolute…Gaining admission into the tertiary institution was a dream coming true. He was resolute to graduate with good grades, had goals of getting a befitting job at 27years,get married to his beautiful friend at 28 and live the American dream by travelling round the world beginning with Bahama to see one of His mentors,Myles.
He was focused and committed to God and his goals. No girlfriends, no sex before marriage and any other distractions. This was a resolution that will have to withstand the test of time and tempestuous temptations on campus ground…
Once again the dice is cast again.
He got himself attached to a Christian fellowship and was committed to living the Christian life,so far so good. He selected and chose the best of friends that will help him achieve his goals…the team was a great team and they were playing the game well to score the goal by God’s grace. Interestingly, they have similar goals.
His fair looks and kind heartedness will not let the girls off his back. He also had a few crush he had to crush to stay in line with purpose. So he made them as friends and sisters… He enjoyed their company as they taught him how to take care of a woman, respect her and treat her. He was deeply grateful for this lifelong lessons.
A particular friend called Sandy, particularly taught him how to walk a girl,she instructed- Jon’s (as she calls him), when you walk with a lady,keep her on a save side by your left arm to protect her.
Another particular friend of his called Jess, frequently cautions him when his over nice ness with any lady is crossing the line,she was his saviour.
Then he had lovely younger friend who will take a walk with him some evenings to gist,laugh and go sight seeing. He can’t forget this evening they went out on a rainy evening, close to a market,he slipped into a mud while laughing, they tried all they could to locate his slip-on in the mud but no avail, so she got clean water for him to wash off and offered her own little shoes for him to wear but refused,they continue back to the hostel laughing about the whole scenario. Her name is Ndidi.
Ndidi also came to his rescue on a particular evening when he was seriously sick of fever. He needed help so badly, his room mate wasn’t in and he was in a bad shape. Suddenly, Ndidi came knocking, when she didn’t get a response, she pushed her way in just to find her cute friend shivering. Immediately she saw the look on his face and his temperature, she quickly dashed out to call Jess while she went ahead to get some drug for first aid treatment. She was so lovely. By the time she got back,with Jess already there,they both nursed him like a baby.
The next morning Jess and his clique of male friends bundled him to the school clinic. What a family.At noon,Ndidi was already in his hostel room with goat meat pepper soup. The treatment was overwhelming. He got well in no time. By now you will be thinking Ndidi was his babe. Well, Ndidi was a good catch but he had made it clear they are just friends event though she obviously wanted more than just friends but he couldn’t give up on his beautiful friend waiting at home.
Did I forget that Jonas had a more elderly female friend who was his course mate and he sees her as a big sister. He thought she will as well see him as one. Their relationship was cordial, he follows her to her place, they Cook, eat and he usually sleeps up in her place,then wakes up to start heading to his hostel. This kept going on until one fateful morning in the lecture hall, when she called him a gay in front of the whole class…what?!
A gay?!….His friends where all shocked as they know Jonas too well to be a gay…a gay?!
Jonas’ inquisitive mind began to yarn for answers and he struggled hard to stay on track in his christian race. So he began to look for answers every where, even in the wrong places…
He read everything in print; mills n booms,silhouette, hint magazine, James Hadley chase, a few Christian literature to mention a few and he also watched all manner of movies all in search for answers.
Over time, the wrong stuff began to gain weight over the good stuff.
It was a time-bomb!
…there lived a beautiful damsel in his neighbourhood, they became friends! Friends with no benefits! He played the big brother to her, advised her, helped with her assignment, cautioned her and ensured the lines were not crossed! Virtue and integrity was his watchword!.She had no choice but to follow suit!
….But the time bomb in him was already counting down to explode but somehow the values he has learnt of somehow detonates the bomb, but….
Somehow their friendship became strong, young teenage Jonas new he must not cross the lines by touching, caressing or kissing…Its a hard hurdle to jump!…Sex is not an option to even think of- he vowed to remain a virgin till marriage!
Young Jonas had several advances from other girls who were crushing on him and those he was crushing on but his beautiful friend and neighbour was all he dreamt of-infatuation!
Jonas found a way of detonating the already fast counting down time bomb by writing out poems of hid burning feelings he had for his beautiful friend – this helped him to cool off when his flesh is set on fire in the presence of his damsel!
…But something keeps the fire in his veins aflame…
…The dice is cast again!
Growing up in a “ghetto” was a quiet challenging battle ground for Jonas, a young christian teenage who truly wants to love God as a christian.
While in Primary school, living in a public compound of 22 apartment with families having an average of 5-7 kids each, Jonas grew to have a first hand knowledge of a lot of life crisis a teenager shouldn’t have been exposed to at that age.
At age 11, he had seen a young man and a girl caught having sex. He had listen to older neighbours arrange on how to toast a girl and have sex with her. Having a boy friend or girl friend seems to be a norm as a youth.
Reports of young ladies getting pregnant out of wedlock and aborting it sounds normal in his neighbourhood.
Young boys smoking ganja/ stone/weed or “wi -wi” as it is commonly called in the hood, was alarming! Drinking alcohol and taking drugs seems to make you the happening guy. Staying out late, boys and girls pairing up in dark corners shamelessly caressing, kissing, fondling and …!hanging out late into the night was the in-thing.
This were the pictures young Jonas had playing on his young mind battling with the sound christian teachings of values and morals he must strictly adhere to! His parents have done a good job bringing him up in a godly way but now as he grows into maturity, his hormones yarns for satisfaction and to put to practice all that his environment as engraved upon his young mind!
The unending battle begins!
Jonas gave his life to Christ when he was in Jss 1 and made a conscious decision to stay clear of all negative social vices in his neighbourhood and every where else. His aim was to be an example to others. So he decided – NO GIRLFRIEND TILL HE IS MATURED ENOUGH TAKE RESPONSIBILITY, NO SEX TILL MARRIAGE, NO SMOKING OR DRINKING ALCOHOL even if its 1%, amongst other decisions reached.
The dice was cast!
In Jss 2, most of his mates were undergoing puberty and so many changes in body physique already visible. Hormones boiling and yarning for expression. A lot of boys and girls who couldn’t help it, were already pairing up and calling themselves lovers! Secret parties were organised and attended with a lot of foul stories that seems to be interesting to the carnal mind. In Js 3, it got more pronounced as rumours of sexual escapades by classmates started filtering round and pressure started mounting on young handsome Jonas to get a girlfriend,attend one of those secret parties, have a taste of what alcohol is like or even arrange a sex outing for him but Jonas was resolute not to fail his God for he has learnt so much from scriptures what sin can do to a man. More so, he just wanted to be like Joseph in the story he read in my book of bible story! And he was bent on making good grades in school so he can become a pilot and buy houses and cars for his poor parents! This is the dream and he must not lose focus!
But the war within Jonas, of those negative pictures, seems to be gaining more ground in his mind lately…
…Watch out for part 2!
I am not a coward…
Who will bow to a dictator, follow n carry out their wishes to the detriment of others!
I will stand for the truth, stand for the righteous course, stand for the helpless and stand for the right values and ethics!
I am not a coward!
I will not be a party to sycophancy nor play the eye service game to gain favours! Neither will I lower my standard in order to maintain relevance!
I am not a coward!
I say no to churchianity!
I say no to worshipping the spirit of a commission than the God of the commission.
I say no to being activity driven- having a form of godliness but denying the power thereof!
I am not a coward!
I Will not stick to ideals and doctrines that holds me bound to continue to being friends with low minded, sarcastic, betraying, negatively infectious people!
Call it malice?!…you are on your own!
I will walk away from anything or anyone that tempers with my joy!…Cowards!
I am not a coward!
Like Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther king jnr, i have found a worthy course, which i am ready to fight for and which i am ready to go to prison for and die for if need be!
I am not a coward!
I will pursue my call!
Run with my vision!
Dare any devil (be it in human form) on the way! …without the use of any form of satanic wisdom!….Like some cowards will advice; use wisdom- which wisdom?!
Wisdom that bows to satanic precedents to stay relevant?
THAT DEVIL IS A BASTARD!!!
I know who i am!
I Know the son of who i am!
I am a kingdom citizen!
I am not a bastard!
I am not a coward!